Stages of Listening

Remembering begins with listening; if you can't remember something that was said, you might not have been listening effectively. The most common reason for not remembering a message after the fact is because it wasn't really learned in the first place. However, even when you are listening attentively, some messages are more difficult than others to understand and remember. Highly complex messages that are filled with detail call for highly developed listening skills. Moreover, if something distracts your attention even for a moment, you could miss out on information that explains other new concepts you hear when you begin to listen fully again.

It's also important to know that you can improve your memory of a message by processing it meaningfully - that is, by applying it in ways that are meaningful to you. Instead of simply repeating a new acquaintance's name over and over, for example, you might remember it by associating it with something in your own life. "Emily," you might say, "reminds me of the Emily I knew in middle school," or "Mr. Impiari's name reminds me of the Impala my father drives".

Finally, if understanding has been inaccurate, recollection of the message will also be inaccurate.